Flirting is natural. As men we have a tendency to get caught flirting with women other than our wife’s or girlfriends, and not necessarily because it’s our fault. So the question we are asking our dudes today is, what should you do when your significant other’s friends flirt with you?
Before you get a chance to put your proverbial foot in your mouth we are going to give you a few tips you can use the next time you find yourself in that awkward scenario.
Is it you or is it her?
First determine whether it is her who initiates the flirting. Analyze how you act around her. Do you go out of your way to make her feel special when you are around her? Or does she seek you out whenever she’s around? Before you can take any necessary steps in curbing the behavior you have to first recognize what behavior is taking place. Regardless of who is at fault, it is still up to you to make the necessary changes to avoid any serious damage to your relationship.
Gauge the situation
There is a big difference between harmless flirtation and serious romantic interests. Before you take any drastic measures make sure that the situation is not a case of an overly flirtatious personality. You don’t want to jump to conclusions and end up looking like a fool in the process. Step back and take an honest gauge of the entire situation to determine what the best course of action would be.
The most obvious way to avoid a flirtatious friend is to avoid them altogether. The more that you are around them the more likely temptation will arise. Of course, you don’t want to be awkward about the whole situation but there are ways to avoid certain individuals. For example, if your wife invites her flirtatious friend over get out of the house and hang out with your buddies instead of staying in. Or if you find you can’t avoid a situation where her flirtatious friend will be to simply spend more time with your wife or with other friends that are there. Whatever you do avoid at all costs being alone with her. This eliminates temptation from arising before you even find yourself in the situation.
Be honest save
Don’t be afraid to tell your wife’s friend that you are uncomfortable with her actions. Sometimes honesty is the best policy and if it makes you uncomfortable then it probably would make your wife uncomfortable too. Ask her to respect both you and your wife by toning down the flirting. If this doesn’t work you may have to go directly to your wife and explain the situation. You may be surprised with how appreciative your wife will be that you were honest. After all, she doesn’t need an untrue friend hanging around anyways.