When it comes to dealing with infidelity, it can be a heartbreaking and emotional experience, regardless of gender. As much as men may try to put on a front of being strong and tough, dealing with infidelity can be an emotional venture. The woman doing the cheating does not have the fortitude to be honest and upfront. It is a matter of a person’s character when they cheat on a spouse or significant other. A cheater’s heart is torn in different direction, and they try to hang on to person they have been with while at the same time finding comfort in the arms of another man or woman.
Tips on Dealing with Infidelity in your Relationship
It is a deceitful and selfish act to cheat on someone behind their back because the cheater is not committing to either partner. The cheater lies somewhere in the middle, either intending to decide to leave the previous man or is on the fence about which man to choose. Many men do not expect to be cheated on, but when it happens many men do not know how to react.
If she cheats...
If a man finds out his wife or girlfriend is cheating then allow her to dig a deeper hole for herself by remaining silent as she tells more lies. If she is upfront and honest from the beginning then there is a smidge of character left within. If she is stubborn and refuses to acknowledge the truth then it is not only a matter of infidelity, but it speaks to the character of a person who will constantly tell lies to get out of trouble.
What should you do?
Men react differently when dealing with infidelity, but the sensible thing to do would be to end the relationship with no questions asked. Mending a relationship after infidelity is not impossible, but there will be a lingering feeling mistrust if the woman ever steps outside alone. There is no easy way to go about dealing with infidelity, but if a man chooses to accept a woman after she has cheated then a long and deep-rooted talk is necessary to clear any problems or hidden issues. Everything needs to be brought to the surface so any issue does not rear its ugly head later in the relationship.
How to move forward...
You should always be firm, regardless if he accepts the cheating woman again or not. Being a doormat will not only shred any ounce of self-respect or manhood, but the woman will not respect a man who backs down easily when such a monumental event occurs in a relationship. If going to keep a woman who has cheated then men should let the woman know that if she cheats again the relationship is over with no questions asked. Men should always make this statement final and concrete with no wiggle room.
For men who want to move on, this may be the best step. It is a way of setting standards while refusing to associate with people who betray and lie. No matter how emotional she may get, remaining calm and stern will place the man on a higher pedestal, and he will always come out the winner by choosing to end a relationship that is plagued with lies and treachery.